10 Lessons I Learned From 25 That I’m Taking Into 26 | 5min read

10 Lessons I Learned From 25 That I’m Taking Into 26 | 5min read

10 lessons I learned from 25 that I’m taking into 26
Below you’ll find 10 raw and real lessons I learned from my 25th year, that I’m taking into the 26th. I turn 26 on October 6th so this is always a time of reflection & resetting for me.[Stay tuned for the next blog to join me this year]
I’m sharing these lessons as a reminder to myself and you in hopes that it helps you on your journey. Note that my tone is to/for myself, sometimes I need a lil tough love but if you need it, take it!
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1. Slow tf down.

I‘ve been rushing to get to the next thing/age/accomplishment all my life lol…but I finally get it. We have time…I know life feels like we have to do it all and be it all now, but you have time. Slow down and enjoy where you are, or you’ll miss it. You’re never going to get this time back!

With that being said..

2. You have to be intentional with your time…otherwise, you’re wasting it

Slowing down is crucial because time is flying, and I think it’s safe to say a lot of us see how short life is now. We have to get more use out of our time and stop wasting it on mindless scrolling, gossiping, and meaningless experiences. Learn yourself, do more things that you love, utilize your time and get the most out of life! This is the youngest we’ll ever be.

3. If you don’t prioritize yourself first, you and your goals will suffer.

At some point, you have to stop caring about all the noise happening around you, and hone in on what truly matters so that you can prioritize that. You might have to miss out on the happy hours and nights out or choose 1 of the 3 weekend festivities. You might have FOMO now but your future self is going to be grateful, and those ‘fun’ nights will come around again, and again! You’re not missing out.

4. Friendships are going to change, but it doesn’t have to be a bad thing.

We’re all on our unique journeys, so they won’t always align and that's ok. The true ones will remain true, and no matter the time and distance that passes, the vibes remain the same (I love those onesss). These changes are uncomfortable, yes, but great things come from discomfort. Those friendships may circle back again even better + new ones will come about too. Don’t be afraid to shoot your shot with new friends! It might feel awkward, but it’s worth it, trust me. More often than not, they’re flattered! Shout out to my boos! :) 

5. Relationships are hard af, and probably the ultimate test to your growth as a woman - it’s so worth it

I’m 3 years into mine (aka past the honeymoon phase) and for the first time, I’ve witnessed how much a genuine relationship can expose how much you know and/or do not know yourself, and the differences between who you want to be, who you’re trying to be and who you actually are. Becoming aware of those things can sting sometimes I will not lie, it’s uncomfortable to face but it’s so damn worth it. 
This might be weird to say but it’s really grounding... We want mature, healthy, healing love only, right? That means developing that within yourself, and going through it, is the only way to it!

6. There is no right way to do this shxt

Seriously, there is no right or perfect way to do life. You can only do your best and as long as you aren't out here intentionally hurting anybody, and are trying to do things you feel are aligned with what you want, then go off sis! Do things your way, in a way that feels good for YOU.

7. If you don't listen, you feel. 

This one might be relative but it’s proved true my whole life, my mama preached it all my childhood. ‘If you do not listen, you will feel.’

Sometimes you really do just need to shut up, relax and LISTEN. (Within reason :P) Listen to the signs and gut instincts you get. Listen to YOURSELF and act on that. Listen to those who you trust have your best interest at heart. Listen to your man…this one might be controversial, but sometimes you should (shall we talk about it?). We don’t always have to combat everything or figure it out ourselves because let's face it, we do not know it all and we want to be taken care of, do we not? (I do!) At least be open to hearing and take what resonates with you…dump the rest.

8. Give yourself grace. 

You are allowed to change your mind as many times as you need. You are allowed to make mistakes. You are allowed to fall off sometimes. You are allowed to not be okay. You are allowed to say no. We have so much compassion for others when they’re down and out, but what about for ourselves? We have to give ourselves grace and space to be human because quite frankly perfect is boring. Rest when you need to, know that it’s ok to ask for help + always get back up and keep pushing. Everything is going to work out as it should if you do.

9. Stop taking things personally; it's not always about you!

Some of us (me) can sometimes be so quick to think that we are the reason behind certain things happening, someone acting a certain way, things not going as planned/right…when in actuality, it has nothing to do with us and we drive ourselves crazy and/or make the situation worse. Sista, it’s not always about you!!! (respectfully) Give people and situations room to breathe sometimes and you’ll be surprised at what you get and realize.

10. Live, but save bitch. Save.

I know we’re young and free, but you do not wanna be old and broke friend. I know I don’t! Make sure you make time to have genuine fun, to try new things, and new foods and liveeee, but make sure you prioritize too. Don’t get lost in the sauce, cause I hear our 30s are meant to be our best years. (Not rushing!!)

Bonus lesson 11. HEALTH IS WEALTH. Forreal forreal, since I turned 25 I’ve felt changes in my body y’all lol! I don’t recover like I used to! Feed your body well, check in regularly and keep yourself fit!

Bonus lesson 12. Prioritize your family. 

I know this one is relative because we all have different family relationships, but in my experience, no one has your back like your family. Make sure you make time for your parents, and your grandparents, and check up on your loved ones because time is moving faster and faster the older we get. They’re the ones that are going to love us fully, flaws and all, until the end, so don’t neglect that.

If any of these resonate with you, drop a comment and let me know which ones!?

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Full of gems!✨

Tya

Full of gems!✨

Tya

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